Friends can be good for a relationship, but at the same time, they can wreak havoc and you might not even realize it. Friends mostly have good intentions, except if they want the person you’re in a relationship with or they are jealous because of your relationship. Friends with good intentions, without realizing it, can cause problems in a relationship because of their view of what they think of your relationship. I will say that most of their views come from the person in the relationship. Think about it; without you telling them, how would they know? Friends can only see what a couple puts out there for the world to see.
One of the biggest ways a friend can hurt your relationship is by giving advice based on the biased things you tell them. When you tell them your point of view of what’s going wrong, the friend can only respond to what you have shared. When we talk about our relationship, whether good or bad, we are only telling them one side. You don’t know how the other person in the relationship really feels because, in my opinion, you never truly get to know a person. You only know as much as a person wants you to know. Therefore, what you tell your friend about the other person in your relationship is what you’ve perceived of that person.
When you have friends, they generally take your side in an argument. That’s because they want to be there for you and that means being on your side. Your friends want to show they have your back, so they tell you what they think you want to hear. They will agree with you, even when they think you’re wrong. When your friends do something like that, it prolongs the argument in your relationship because now that you’ve been validated by your friends, you can’t just back down in the argument. You have all kinds of conversations with your friends rolling around in your head. It becomes hard to get their thoughts separated from your own thoughts without feeling some type of way.
Friends should basically stay out of relationship except to just listen with no words leaving their mouth. It’s not always easy, especially when your friend in the relationship is hurting. Unless there’s some kind of abuse, it’s best to be as consoling as possible, but not so close that you get involved. It can be hard to be a friend without offering an opinion; that can be hard. When you’re a friend, offering opinions is one of the things that makes you friends. You offer opinions and the person will agree or disagree with you. There is a very thin line between opinion and getting involved, and the best way to handle that is take a minute and think if you want that opinion or would you think that person is getting too close into your relationship. It’s hard, but very necessary. How many times have you, as a friend, shared an opinion and the couple gets back together, or even worse, gets back together and blames you for their not being together. It happens. Is it worth losing a friend?
Friendship is a precious connection that you have with someone. A friend will understand your boundaries when you get into a relationship. The way friends connect sometimes changes. When a friend gets into a relationship, there could be jealousy. Your time isn’t only hanging with your friends or passing the time with a friend. It now has to be divided. This can be hard on a friendship. You have to understand the obstacles that can come into play when you have a relationship. You should sit and have a conversation with your friends to let them know how your friendship might change and what can be done to preserve it. It is also important to set boundaries for yourself that there are some things that go on in your relationship that will stay within it. This way, friends can’t be blamed for ruining your relationship or keeping the drama going. Friends can be good or bad for a relationship; it all depends on how much you let them into your relationship.