Online Dating

Online Dating Worked For Us. We Got Married.

Is Online Dating for You?
The question “How do I meet someone?” has been around for many years. You used to go to church to meet someone, or there would be someone in the neighborhood. There were always limitations to the number of people you could meet or even date using those means. You stayed in the familiar and didn’t venture too far from there. The answer to that question came years later with the computer age. The computer age gave you the ability to venture across states and even countries.
Careful As You Go
Dating online can be nerve-racking and exciting, but there can also be heartbreaks and frustration. It is what you put into it and as long as you keep a good perspective about the people you meet. I’ve been using online dating for over 10 years. I know how easy it is to get caught up in the fantasy that it provides. It can be used to target people who have a problem meeting people, or have limited friends. People who are inhibited can use online dating as a method to let their adventurous and flirtatious sides out. The unpopular can now become popular and the weak-minded can become strong.
The biggest problem with online dating is you never know who the person you meet really is. The person could be someone with mental or relationship issues. You sometimes won’t find out until you’ve been on a few dates. The men who are married and I say men because in my experience it has always been men that are married that play games. Again, you usually don’t find out until you’ve emotionally invested. Then there are the men in jail that will do anything to make their time go by. They seem to always be able to find someone to become a pen pal with, and it is usually a lonely woman. They use them for money, visits and anything to make their time easier. There are some who propose marriage just to have conjugal visits. It’s a game to most of them and they have no interest in keeping their promises once they get out. The women they entice are left with broken hearts, and in an emotional mess. There is no surefire way to prevent any of this from happening to you. The best way not to become a victim is by taking it slowly, and ask questions over and over again. There usually are signs, like not being able to call the person except on a cell phone. You should ask to meet his family and friends. Does this person work is a question you should be asking yourself, if he’s at home or out in the streets during working hours. There are so many horror stories of dates gone bad and women never making it back home. You don’t want this to be you. Always let someone know where you are going and with whom. You should provide a telephone number and any information that someone can trace to that person. If he has a car get the license number and the make and model. If the person has scars or tattoos let it be known. You might want to take a picture of the person. I know this seems extreme, but you won’t feel that way if you get into a situation and need help. This is not to say women won’t do the same things that men will because that’s not true. Women can have just as many games as a man does, and for some reason it seems a lot worse…

The First Date
You should always put your best foot forward when you’re going to meet someone for the first time. You should make sure your appearance is a good indicator of who you are. What I mean is, if you’re a jeans kind of person, don’t go in formal attire. This also applies to where you meet for the first time. The meeting place should be in a public area but not so noisy to the point that you can’t hear each other. A movie is the worst place to go because you can’t talk and there is no interaction at all. When you first meet, smile, don’t go with the grumpy cat look on your face. If there is an attraction you will both know, because body language speaks volumes. I do suggest that if you don’t find the attraction, you don’t tune the person out. There are many people that are married today just because they gave their date a chance to develop. Since there has been conversation between the two of you there should be plenty to talk about. If that’s not the case, look around you and find something that can break the ice – usually the menu will do. This is not the time to blank out or act like the dumb blonde. Don’t make your date feel like it’s a run to the finish line, as this can be picked up on immediately. No matter what your feeling is after meeting, be polite and always let the person know friendship is available. There is no point in cutting the person off, because you never know what role that person can play in your life down the road.

What your take in online dating?

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What Comes First The Dog or The Baby

What Comes First

The decision to get a dog or have a baby should be discussed before you get married. There are some people who think having a dog is just too much work with the feeding, walking, and not to mention the expense. Those very people might have the same feelings when it comes to having a baby. They don’t want to be bogged down with the responsibilities that children require, or being constricted in their lifestyle. The idea of having children or dogs can be a deal breaker for some. You need to get it out in conversation so your view is known ahead of time. You don’t want surprises after you’re married.

Dogs Are Like Children

Dogs are like children in so many ways. The emotional traits that dogs have like people are that they hurt, and cry when they are in pain; they exhibit happiness and give you unconditional love. You can dress them in the latest fashions to take them on a walk. A dog’s actions can be amusing and funny just by them being themselves. There are many breeds, each with their own characteristics. People like mating different breeds to make what is called a “designer dog”. An example of that would be mating a Affenpinscher and a poodle to produce Affenpoo. The biggest difference between dogs and children, is that dogs can’t talk or express themselves in any form.

The dogs pictured are GG who is 12, and Mason who is five years old. They are Shih Tzu’s which means “little lion,” and years ago, they were the dogs kept by Chinese royalty. They are like siblings fighting over toys and hiding things from each other. They are called lap dogs because basically that’s all they want to do: sit on your lap and be rubbed. They thrive on attention from their owners.

Dogs Are Expensive

The expense of keeping a dog healthy can be overwhelming. They require shots on a yearly basis to fight diseases, and monthly heart, worm, and flea and tick medicine. Their medical visits can easily cost a hundred dollars or more. There are times when the veterinarian will help with the cost of medicine by telling you what human medicine is safe to give to your dog. My vet has told be about Benadryl for allergies and Pepto Bismal for upset stomach. If your dog needs dental care, that expense can run to over five hundred dollars.

They also require grooming to look good, but more importantly, it helps keep them in good health. Grooming is a great expense because it should occur every four to six weeks, which adds up over time. You can groom your dog yourself to help with the expense, which is what a lot of people do.

Children: A Needed Discussion

Children are all different in looks and temperament. They show the emotions of crying when in pain, they exhibit happiness, and most give unconditional love. They are amusing and the funniest when they are not trying to be. The needs of children can be overwhelming to new parents. The expense that is required to raise children can stretch the budget of any new parents. The medical expense for shots and illnesses can add up as the years go by. There is the clothing expense, which seems to grow as they do. Children from birth to adulthood is an expense that some parents are ill-prepared for, especially if they are unexpected.

Dogs and Children: The Comparison

The comparison between dogs and children is unbelievable because of so many similarities. The conversation of having a dog or/and children is a conversation that truly needs to take place. The attention they both require will take away time from you and your partner. Dogs and children both need attention, both will have medical expenses, and both need guidance until they reach a certain age.

When you introduce them into the family, you need to be at a place where you can devote the time, attention and love they both require. You want to have a happy child as well as a happy dog. The solution might be to have a dog or child at different times. There are many people who might think it’s a no brainier: have the child and forget the dog. What they don’t understand is that not every couple should, or needs, to have children. There are couples who have lifestyles that don’t allow for kids, or they just don’t want to make the huge sacrifice. For these couples, having a dog is as close to a child as they want to get. Dogs have no issues with fitting in, expectations, or need the level of attention that children do. In a lot of ways, dogs are less trouble in the long run than children. I hope you see how important this conversation is before marriage. Don’t assume one way or another that you know what the other person wants.

What comes first for you the dog or the baby?

Would you get rid of your dog for a baby? 

Let’s Talk

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We don’t talk and conversate anymore. I want bring back the art of conversation. My blogs will be to stimulate conversation not just with me but with each other. If you have a topic email me and I’ll write a blog to get the conversation going. The sky’s the limit on topics. If you have something on your mind let it out relationship, gay matters, politics, religion. You had a argument with your spouse or the kids aren’t listening put it out there right here. Let’s get started.